HOW TO DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
When you read the title of this post, a very difficult person in your life may have come to mind. That one person that no matter what, they always seem to have a terrible attitude or just gives you the hardest time. It might be a person that sucks the life out of you with their very presence.
Sometimes the very thought of them can bring a little clinch to your teeth or sweat to your brow. Well, most of us have those type of people in our lives. They could be very familiar OR complete strangers...shoot, we might even be that person to someone else! ;) Either way, today I am going to let you in on how I deal with difficult people WITHOUT letting them change my mood.
+ Know that everyone has a story.
The first thing that helps me to deal with difficult people, is I realize that I am usually NOT the problem. When people are just mean and rude for no reason, I know that they have some deeper issues going on...I just happen to be the one they targeted that day.
Now, this doesn't mean I will let them treat me anyway they want without responding, but I also try my hardest not to be equally rude and mean. To me it's just not worth it, I usually just shake my head and continue on with my day.
+ See if there is anything you can do to help.
Sometimes difficult people can be hurt and lonely people. When I see a person that always seems to be angry or upset, I will put on my life inspector badge (aka nosey badge) and go to work. I will ask them about their day or make small talk with them.
I try not to let these type of people intimidate me, after all we are all human and what really can they do to me? Surprisingly enough by taking this approach I have been able to develop cordial relationships with some very hard-to-get-along-with people. I honestly believe that this is the way Jesus would want me to behave.
+ Forgive and forgive again.
We all have bad days, bad weeks, bad months and maybe even bad years. I believe that people can change so I like to pray for difficult people and I let God fight my battles. I have no room not to forgive people for the way they may behave. Forgiving people even if they are not sorry allows me to walk in peace and freedom in my life.
+ Be internally happy and optimistic.
When you have an internal happiness and peace, it is very hard for people to ruin that. I have found that starting my day off with prayer, gratitude and purpose helps me to deflect negativity and unhappiness. I try my hardest to be a light shining in the darkness and pray each day that I can help the unhappy to find happiness again.
In the end, we are all people just trying to make it in this life. We have to be patient and understanding of each other. I always like to remind myself that I never know what battle a person is fighting or what struggle they came from.
If our experiences make us who we are, perhaps we can try to make other people's experiences with us a positive one.
Do you have a way of dealing with difficult people?
live healthy + happy,