If it doesn't add value, let it go
I regularly find myself on a path to self-improvement. I always want to be better and more aware of myself than I was the day before. Sometimes I find that life, people and other influences causes me to hold onto things and activities that don't add value to my life.
I'm at a point in my life when I no longer want to be weighed down by things that don't add value. But It's not always "things" that that don't add value, sometimes mindless activities and toxic people need to be let go of in order to keep from feeling weighed down.
I've sat down and reflected on the things that I really feel like aren't serving me or adding value to my life and I've decided to let those things go. Sometimes it can be hard to let go of things because you get so used to having them that you are afraid of what things will be like if they aren't there. Letting go of and breaking ties with people can be even harder but sometimes it is very necessary.
I've personally decided to let go of pursuing some friendships that just weren't meant to be. I decided to leave some social media sites that were taking up too much of my time and leaving me feeling empty. I have also decided to say no to activities that I just really don't want to do and yes to some that I have always wanted to try. I already feel much lighter and free.
Here are some questions to consider and things I thought about when deciding what I should let go from my life.
Does this make me happy?
Have I used this in the past month?
Do I feel sad at the thought of getting rid of this?
Is this activity taking up to much of my time with no return on investment?
Am I doing this because I want to or because someone else is?
Is fear of missing out the reason I continue this activity and not that I enjoy it?
Have I put more important things/people on the back burner to do this activity?
People / Friendships:
Does this person make me feel bad when I am with them?
Does this person drain me because of their negative attitude?
Do I feeling like I am giving more to this relationship than I am receiving?
Do I often find myself in the comparison trap with this person?
Important note about relationships: I know that it isn't always completely possible to break ties with people who you may have answered "yes" about to the previous questions. However, it is possible set boundaries and let them know how you feel. You can also decide to limit your interaction with them as much as possible. With all that said, it is also very important to show grace to people because no one is perfect, not even you or me. Sometimes we just have to learn to accept people the way they are if they aren't causing you any physical or mental harm.
Overall, I believe life is too short to waste time and energy on things that don't add value to our lives. I say, do more of what really brings joy and makes a difference in the world.